The problem of bullying in schools and playgrounds isn’t so much of a new thing these days – even considering the overreaching effects which come with these brash shoves and hurtful words said to teenagers in school halls. Psychological experts have noted continuously that bullying has a lasting effect on the psychology of teenagers and kids. In a Reuters Health publication in 2013, it was reported that bullying has a long lasting effect on both the victims and the bullies themselves. According to the report, “kids who were bullied and acted as bullies themselves were at higher risk for depression, anxiety and panic disorder years down the line”.
These factors pose a need for a solution to the problem of bullying in schools and playgrounds – basically, amongst children generally – and, more than a physical solution, there is a need for psychological intervention as has been pointed out by child-psychology experts. The reason is because, when the action of bullying takes place, there is both a physical confrontation and a mental one. Sometimes, it is the mental one which causes the more damage within both the bully and his victim[s]. Experts suggest that when children bully other children, they begin to develop a false sense of superiority or power while the victim begins to develop a false sense of inferiority and weakness. Ultimately, they both grow up with these notions and, in the case of the bully, it affects him negatively when he tries to exert power in an environment where he is out of his depths and he realizes how weak he is, falling into a panic or into depression.
Some experts have suggested that parents and guardians – including teachers and caregivers – take the initiative and look out for signs of bullying in their wards in order to do something about it as fast as possible. Some suggested immediate response actions are;
Confrontation – experts suggest that confronting the issue of bullying immediately it happens and clarifying the ineffectiveness of bullying as a means of exerting control immediately is a very effective way of curbing the long term psychological effect. For example, if your child or ward cries in and complains of having being bullied, immediately confront the solution and make them realize that their confidence or importance is not affected by their loss in that show of fists. Also, it helps to confront the bully and let them realize that they are not so strong because they can threaten a physically smaller or weaker peer.
Seeking Psychological Attention – also, seeking professional psychological attention for your child or ward who is either a bully or victim of bully is an efficient way of curbing the future occurrences which result from this act of threat. It helps to get professional attention so as to help the child build their confidence without feeling any sense of attachment – in a case where the child in question is your ward.